What is a 3×4? Originally 3 couples met over 3 months. Then it changed to 3 couples meeting within 4 months. In 2018, SGC decided to try a different frequency/interval for the groups based on feedback and difficulty scheduling. Instead of three rounds of four months each with no break, SGC went with two rounds of five months with a one month break between each round.
How does this work? Couples are assigned to a “pod”. Each pod usually contains 3 couples, but occasionally there are 2 or 4 couples in order to accommodate everyone. During a round each couple hosts an event for the others.
How are these different from regular, official events? It is a great way for couples to get to know each other better through visiting in homes in a smaller group and having more in-depth discussions throughout their time together.
What are some event ideas? Home-hosted dinner or brunch, dessert or cocktail party, or game night. Some people prefer hosting events outside of their home so an event can also be a sporting event (e.g., college, hockey, Rainiers), picnic, restaurant meal, movie, comedy club, museum visit or some other type of gathering.
What if we want to entertain outside of our home? If you do go outside the home for entertainment, we recommend that you clarify in advance how expenses will be divided. Host couples may choose to cover some or all of the expenses, or other couples may wish to contribute, or you may decide to go Dutch. There is no right or wrong approach: it is an internal matter to be discussed among the members of your group.
I signed up on MeetUp–why do I need to fill out the form? The form gathers all of the information into document that will be used to put together the pods. We cannot assign you to a group until we have contact details.
I have allergies/aversion to spicy food/gluten/meat food–what do I do? Inform the members of the pod immediately, not as you are walking through the door. (Don’t be that couple.) Be specific and honest. If beef give you uncontrollable gas or mustard makes you literally vomit, host will certainly accommodate more willingly than if you come across as a picky princess.
Do we need to take anything to an event? The event is up to the host, but most couples bring a beverage to share. Feel free to ask about pairing wine with a dish, or bring a favorite wine or cocktail batch or whatever suits you.
Sounds fun–how do I sign up again? During sign up, go here
OK, I filled out the form–now what? The 3×4 organizer will add the information to the master spreadsheet that lists the pods since 2009. Every attempt will be made to keep you within geographic proximity or interests, and of course, matching people with whom they have not already shared a pod. Once pods are compiled, participants are emailed with joint contact information, and it is up to the couples to get the ball rolling.
We just joined, and missed signing up–anyway we can still participate? Contact us, and we’ll send out a notice to participants. If time and space allows, we all will see what we can do.